BC Becky

Never thought I'd want to be a breast cancer survivor

Tag: pathology

  • Double-mastectomy and chemo

    If I’m repeating myself, I apologize. One thing that I’ve noticed over the last two or three days is that my short-term memory sucks. I cannot seem to hold thoughts for that long, and I am very often walking into a room having completely forgotten why I was there. Worse, is that I sit in front of the computer intent on doing something, then have no clue what that was, and am easily drawn in many different directions.

    Today we had a meeting with the surgeon and then oncologist at PAMF. I also had a phone call from the social worker, but I didn’t get a chance to talk to her because I was driving at the time.

    There isn’t exactly a plan for treatment yet, just some general recommendations based upon the known pathology. There is a key test (the HER2) that is expected early next week. The preliminary HER2 was inconclusive, and we need to know if it is positive or negative, so they send samples off to a different lab for further testing. To simplify the discussion with the oncologist, we only went over options that made sense for HER2 negative (which is 80% likely).

    The surgeons recommendation is a double-mastectomy. I had concluded this as well when the right came back positive, as I have two separate cancers in both breasts. What is interesting here is that prior to having cancer, I always thought that if this happened to me, I’d want it out immediately. Now that it has happened, I’m not as certain. Yes, I want it out, but the decision over chemo or surgery first is an interesting one. I have decided that I will not do reconstruction. This makes the surgery much simpler. Reconstruction brings with it a lot of risks, and frankly, I’d be happy to never have to wear a bra again! My nipples have never been a source of pride, and with reconstruction, I’d likely look all or most feeling, so if they are not a source of sexual pleasure, then there isn’t a lot of point to keeping them. Especially when nipple sparing surgery is both more complex and can potential increase the chance of re-occurance. So, it is logical. I like logical. And in some ways it is a relief to have the decision made.

    So far, both cancers (left and right) have the same characteristics (HR-positive and PR-positive). Given the growth rate of the left, chemotherapy is recommended. The chemo would be the ACT type (assuming HER2 negative). Don’t know too much about that yet, since we just learned it today, I haven’t looked it up yet. The chemo could happen before or after surgery, so this is the big question right now.

    Now if I am HER2 positive, that means that chemo will happen first, as there are some HER2 blockers that can only be given before chemo. There are complexities with HER2 – including an increase mortality rate – so if you are inclined to pray, pray for HER2 negative on both sides.

    One thing that I’ve learned is that statistics only mean something before you get a diagnosis. They provide hope (e.g. 80% of breast cancers are HER2 negative), but they mean nothing once you have received the diagnosis. It is no longer relevant what the statistics are about HR-positive and PR-positive. Both cancers are positive, so for me it is 100%. Statistics only matter for the unknown future, not the known present.

    Having two cancers is not so common, but it certainly made the double-mastectomy question easier. If I only had one cancer, keeping the second breast would have been expected (unless I’m BRCA positive – but that information won’t be available for a couple of weeks – we are hoping for negative here too). I would have then had a harder decision regarding reconstruction. I would have always wondered if keeping the right breast would mean an increased risk of occurrence, and it would mean mammograms every 6-months on the right breast, and constant worry. Plus it would have been harder to figure out clothing and all those complexities. Yes women do it, but I would have found it difficult – a constant reminder. So, the double-mastectomy was perhaps one of the easier decisions.

    Tomorrow we go for a second opinion at Stanford. It is also a chance to see the Stanford Cancer Center and decide if it is a better option for treatment. The folks at PAMF saw no reason that I would get any different treatment at Stanford given what we know now. The only thing that might matter is if there is a clinical trial that I qualify for at Stanford that isn’t available at PAMF (the PAMF oncologist didn’t know of any). Stanford in some ways, Stanford has the coolness factor – I could say “I went to Stanford” and I’d wear the sweatshirt with pride. But it is also further away from where we live. At least 20 minutes further, and parking costs $12 (parking is free at PAMF and most of the locations are within 5-10 drive from Scott’s office and 20 minute drive from home). This all adds up. And so far the care at PAMF has been superb. So, although I might have been leaning towards Stanford late last week, I’m now leaning the other direction. But, tomorrow will tell. I may get to Stanford and feel that everything is right there … I am happy to know that I have choices, as choice means that I have some sense of control (I’m a control freak) … and with so much of this, I don’t have any control. So, I’ll take what I can get!

    And now, it is definitely time for a good nights sleep …

     

  • And so it begins

    The slow start to yesterday meant that I didn’t get my second blog post written. I shall try and get caught up today (before I completely forget what I was going to write about), but no guarantees.

    So yesterday we received some mixed news about the pathology. Specifically, the cancer in both breasts is IDC (invasive ductal carcinoma). Both are also ER-positive and PR-positive. We don’t know yet about HER2 as that test takes longer. This is a good thing, as it means there are more drug options for treatment.

    Left Breast (this is the scary one):
    grade 3
    Ki-67 count is 38% (this says it is still growing quickly)

    Right Breast (the nurse used the term ‘well behaved’)
    grade 2
    Ki-67 8%

    If you want to better understand pathology, there is a great resource: http://www.breastcancer.org/symptoms/diagnosis/path_checklist

    Today we find out what all this means. We are meeting with both the surgeon and medical oncologist from Palo Alto Medical Foundation (PAMF). Tomorrow we get a second opinion at the Stanford Cancer Center.

    I’m torn between the two environments. In part it will depend on what the treatment options are an who is more suited to doing them. PAMF has provided excellent service so far. It is easy for me to get in to see people and I have access to my care providers via email (mostly – apparently the system will not let them email malignancy pathology so I’ll get a printed copy of my reports at some point today). The nurse navigator phoned me yesterday and was awesome. She was able to follow up with the surgeon, collect all the info I needed, and call me back. That saved me an immense amount of time trying to track down the surgeon. I can see that being a very useful thing. In some ways, the decision will depend on the treatment options – and whether I will have the options I need at PAMF. I’m not actually interested in some of the stuff they do at Stanford – like nipple sparing surgeries and things that are done to help with cosmetic reconstruction. Honestly, I cannot see putting myself through the unnecessary surgeries to save skin that might be diseased. I’ll try to talk more about my outlook on that latter.

    Need to get moving this morning. Feeling much better than yesterday. The ER and HR positive news was good news, but also I got some great anti-anxiety meds from my family doc that meant I got a good night’s sleep.

  • The speed of things

    Everything is either too fast or too slow. I feel like the cancer is growing too fast. With each new ache in my body I am worried about it spreading. Is this another symptom? Has it reached my lymph nodes? I am constantly wondering, should I be worried about this or that?

    And at the same time, things are too slow. I cannot even book appointments without the pathology report. They need the definitive pathology – confirmation – before they will schedule something. The good news is, they will guarantee that they will fit me in when the pathology comes back. So, logically it makes sense. They cannot recommend anything until they have all the information, but at the same time, I want an appointment time so that I know that I will not be unnecessarily waiting.

    In the waiting, there is also the feeling of over-reacting. Am I making more of this than I should? What if it is just a ‘minor’ cancer? One in eight women will get breast cancer in their lifetime, so it is really that big of a deal? But, I am young and that is a concern. A new friend pointed out to me this article Why Everyone Seems to have Cancer, which she found to somehow be comforting. Cancer is a ‘normal’ part of aging, it argues. Unfortunately, this doesn’t help me at all. In some ways, it scares me, cause I’m too young. Two-thirds of women with breast cancer are over 50. I’m not.

    The too young thing is not new for me. In June last year (hmm, June seems like a bad month for me) I started developing cataracts. By October, my vision could no longer be corrected with glasses. In January I had my first cataract surgery – three days before my 43rd birthday. In March I had my second cataract surgery. My vision hasn’t turned out how we had planned – and I had additional surgeries planned to get there – but that is on hold now. It too is in a holding pattern.

    So, I am waiting, and while I wait the cancer grows. But also with the waiting, I have time to consider the options, time to exercise and get stronger, time to think about how I want to spend my time over the next year. There is a freeing that happens – an ability to let go of things that I don’t want to do, an ability to put things on hold until all this gets figured out – and all the unknowns start to become more known.

    There is also a new appreciation for sunk costs. The idea is that when you make quality decisions, they should be based on the future, not the past. However, we have a tendency to say things like “but I’ve spend x years on this, I might as well finish it”. The x years spent are a sunk cost. It is in the past. It should not be used as something that influences future decisions. Being told you have cancer helps you see the sunk costs that are affecting your decisions. The focus becomes only on the future (with a high priority on the immediate future), with no regard to the past. So now I shall think on the future, but first, a nice long bike ride … Oh ya, and on Saturday we are going sailing on the USA 76 Challenger from the 2003 America’s Cup.

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