What’s stopping me?

Since being diagnosed with cancer, one of the questions I find I ask myself is “what’s stopping me?” More specifically, “what’s stopping me from doing what I want to do?”

I now find myself questioning the answers. Am I not doing it because I physically cannot? unfortunately, this too often is the answer … but I hope to be recovering soon) … but sometimes I find myself answering with “because someday I might … ” … these are the ones that need further reflection …

And so, I’m now going to to question the “what’s stopping me” answers … and if they don’t make sense, then I’m going to start doing the things I want to do … because all too often, what is stopping me from doing what I want to do is me … and that isn’t a good enough reason to not do it!


  • This is what happens…a life changing event and our perspective changes. It’s the blessing that comes out of the darkness. I’m happy for you. This change in perspective is such a gift.

  • Becky,

    I had a similar “a-ha” moment two years ago when diagnosed. I was more at risk of bc because of being overweight. When did I start worrying or taking care of my husband and children and stopped taking care of me? I was once a healthy athlete, good eater/nutrition, lots of exercise and fresh air. Over almost 20 years of parenting, I had put my health on the back burner.. I had become a bleacher creature. I was the only one who could say “Yes” to me. My name needed also to be on the list and I did not always need to be last. I also don’t always need to be first There were some good lessons for me to learn. I had gotten lazy and spent more time behind the computer than on my bicycle or outdoors. I am finding balance and moderation in my recovery/survivorship. Thank you for sharing your insights with us. I am finding them to be very beneficial to me. I just received a full body massage from a women’s cancer support group. It was amazing. The last time that happened I was pregnant 10 years ago. I wish I had treated myself to more self-care. I am committed to taking care of myself daily now. Thanks for the reminder.

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